Mental & Emotional Self Care

I already talked about physical self care in a previous post. Mental and emotional health self care is even more important. Why? Because if you are a person with a substance use disorder then this part of you is very unbalanced and has contributed to your disorder. Sometimes it is the root cause of substance misuse. Since we are body, mind, spirit, all aspects of ourselves must be treated at the same time. This area might need a little more work to become balanced and whole. 

Again, it starts with you...the real you. Not the person you pretend to be at school, work or even home. The real you without any masks. Some people don't really know who they are since they have pretended and used substances for so long. So, the first step is to acknowledge your feelings. This takes time. What you feel is NOT who you are. It is a temporary uncomfortable place. Maybe you are angry or bitter that life dealt you so many difficulties. Maybe you are scared to get help; fear of the unknown. Perhaps you think it means being judged. It could be that you don't like or love yourself. You have self blame and guilt for getting into this situation and having this disorder. Well all that can get better and those feelings can go away! How? First, make the phone call for help. Entire cities are getting together and each agency near you may have a common goal of supporting you, guiding you towards treatment and recovery, and being there for you every step of the way. Gone are the days of going at it alone! Even if your family and friends are not supportive, these agencies are being taught on how to manage your care according to all your specific needs and be your support system. If this is not the case, then find an area that is adopting this type of care. It will be well worth it.

After you start treatment and feel safe and supported, let all those negative feelings melt away. Cry if you need to....it is therapeutic. Then it is time to get to know yourself. Self reflection is needed. Counseling is recommended. In most treatment programs it is mandatory since it is so crucial to success. Also do things on your own such as taking a walk every day and think about yourself: your dislikes, what you like about yourself such as your positive qualities. Think about happy times in your past and what you can do to make happy memories in the future.  Make an appointment for a Reiki session which is energy work that facilitates balancing and healing all aspects of you. Reflect while you paint or do color therapy. Besides walking, it is one of the best activities for self reflection and it can be fun! Work on a jigsaw puzzle. Go out and sit in nature without distractions. Listen to a  guided meditation in a place where you won't be disturbed. Sit in the Sun. Do some gardening or get some houseplants and take care of them (yes talk to them!). Listen to meaningful music. Journal by writing or drawing every day. Join a peer support group. Recovery is successful when you have multiple support sources. Plus you might make a friend or two.

Now that you know yourself a little it is time to love yourself and express who you are. Forgive yourself.  No more self blame!  Do one thing for yourself  EVERY day. It is so important to love yourself and to show yourself that love. Practice positive affirmations every day and say them out loud. Learn a new hobby that always intrigued you. Dance while no on is looking! Hug a pet or a friend and share your love. Watch a comedy and engage in laughter which is very therapeutic. Read a self help or spiritual book. Go out and listen to live music. Join a social club of some sort. There is a social club for every type of interest such as sports, art & culture, photography, book club, dinner & movie, dog walkers, singles, chess, cribbage, billiards, gaming , arts and crafts, etc...

As I said before, it starts with balancing the physical, mental/emotional and spiritual aspects of yourself. All this is needed for a successful recovery.

Physical Self Care

Self care is #1 priority for everyone! To be truly happy and feeling well, people must take care of themselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. A person can't be the best they can be if one of these areas is unbalanced. Dissatisfaction with life, unhappiness, and negativity can be the result from the lack of self care. Let's talk about physical self care.

Sleep. Without enough sleep a person can feel cranky and be irritable. This affects those around you and all your relationships with people at home, at work and when you are out with the public. It sets you up for a negative day. Also, it affects your coping skills. For example: dealing with traffic in a healthy manner is much more difficult when deprived of rest and sleep!

Food. Not eating healthy can make you feel sluggish. Your brain might not be getting the protein and nutrients it needs to function at top level. Trouble concentrating at school or work can result. Long term results could be the development and susceptibility to disease.

Exercise. Not exercising can also make you feel sluggish, easily fatigued with loss of muscle tone and strength. All your tissues are getting the minimum amount of oxygen needed. Your heart needs to be exercised. Studies show that cardiac problems such as high blood pressure can be improved by exercising. If  you are not active physically, stress builds up within you since there is no energy release from daily stress and negative emotions. As stress levels increase, anxiety can result. Blood pressure and blood sugar go up. All of that contributes to the development of diseases.

What can you do for physical self care?

Stick to a bedtime routine. Relax for an hour before trying to sleep. Don't eat too late in the evening since that can contribute to insomnia. Read a book. Take a hot bath and unwind. Shut off your cell phone early or program it to ring for certain numbers only after a certain time of night.

Eat healthy. I am not talking about being a fanatic unless that is what you want. Logically, choose foods with less salt and sodium and don't use the salt shaker. Choose foods lower in sugar and limit sweets to fresh fruit. Use fresh or frozen vegetables instead of canned. Have fun with new recipes! Choose heart healthy options on the restaurant menu.

Take a daily walk for 30 minutes. Not motivated to do that? Then adopt a dog from the Humane Society and that will force you to take that walk every day. Take the stairs instead of elevator. Park your car further away from the store entrance. Get a neat bicycle and ride the local trails. Join fundraiser walks for your favorite cause. Be creative and have fun with your partner!

Other ideas: make an appointment for your annual physical or wellness visit. 

Monitor your blood pressure and blood sugar if applicable.

Try something different for your health such as acupuncture, chiropractor, or treat yourself and get a massage monthly. Join the local Y and use their pool. Try something you always thought about, like Tai Chi, gentle Yoga, kickboxing, Judo or Karate. Take a self defense course. Go hiking. Make it fun and challenge someone to do a specific number of trails to try to beat you. Join a local club that does activities together such as dancing of any kind, hiking, nature walks, rollerblading, volleyball, biking, swim racing.

It all starts with taking care of yourself. Start doing this and getting help and staying in recovery will become easier.

Here is how we can make a difference!

I went to a conference where virtually every public and community health agency in the area where I live was represented. There is a change in the wording of the common language being used when speaking about "addiction". I want to talk about this and explain some of the reasons why this is being changed.
When you hear the words "addict", "addiction", "drug abuse", it brings a mental image to whoever hears or reads these terms.....for example, the word abuse brings on the image of someone hurting another person. These words, which depict images when heard, influence a person towards being judgmental of that person or group of people. This could affect the quality of healthcare for that judged person. Maybe that person feels judged and won't go for help. That is a terrible thought! We need to stop judging by changing our language when speaking about or with "people with substance use disorder". Doesn't that sound like we are talking about an everyday person with a diagnosis that needs to be treated? Yes! Let's start using these terms:
substance use disorder, person in recovery, drug misuse, actively using, abstinent, not using.
NO more addiction, addict, drug abuse, former addict, clean, dirty. Let's talk about people as if they ARE people, like you, like me. When people who have a substance use disorder talk about themselves, they also should not use the old terms. Why? Because talking about themselves in a negative way presents a negative self image in their own mind. When they say it over and over again, that negative self image is reinforced over and over. That is enough to make anyone depressed, want to hide and numb those negative feelings! So let's help others talk and feel more positive about themselves. It starts with me and you. Together we can make a difference!

Let's talk about Opiate Use & Drug misuse

Takoda says, "Talk LOUD"

Takoda the rescue dog got a second chance at Life...someone you know might not if they misuse opiates, other drugs, or medications so....talk LOUD

Let's talk about
Opiate
Use &
Drug misuse

with your friends, with your kids, with your parents!

WHAT IS BUPRENORPHINE? WHAT IS METHADONE?

Buprenorphine is an "analgesic", aka pain medication, aka narcotic. It is man made from something "natural" and altered chemically to become a semi-synthetic compound. Yes it is considered a narcotic and treated as such by the DEA. It is in the "Opioid" category. When taken, this medication will merge with opioid receptor sites just as morphine, heroin or methadone does. But this med has other slightly different properties. 

Buprenorphine is a partial agonist opioid. Heroin and methadone are full agonists. I mention this since you might hear those terms, not to conduct an opioid course. Because it is a "partial agonist" Buprenorphine can give pain relief same as the other opioids but it doesn't affect your breathing as much as methadone would. It is faster and easier to get stable with this medication and when you are ready, faster and easier to detox off.  It is considered to be less addicting and with fewer side effects. It is shorter acting compared to methadone. You can't be on any benzodiazepine prescriptions (or illicit) such as xanax since it is not medically safe. You must be illicit drug free after you are stabilized or usually you get terminated. Remain illicit drug free and you get "take home" doses for several days or a week so you don't have to go everyday. Some clinics have you go every other day. Of course there is a catch: buprenorphine has what is called a "ceiling" effect. Meaning, once you reach a certain dose, taking additional doses does not give you more pain relief and it is not suppose to get you euphoric or high. Once you reach a certain level, that is it. Okay if your drug use has been 5 years or less or your daily use is not real high. For some people with substance use disorder  this works very well!  If you are taking buprenorphine and still have cravings then you need methadone. With the carfentanil, it is hard to judge if this treatment would work well with heroin users until one tries it. Doesn't hurt to try. 

Heroin users usually need methadone; WHY? Because of the large amount of daily use and recently because of the carfentanil potency. Methadone is a full agonist. It has no ceiling effect. It gives full pain relief but take too much and you will stop breathing and die. Plainly put. It affects your breathing so anyone with a respiratory disease such as asthma or COPD must be monitored and must be very careful in taking this medication. Methadone can also affect your heart rhythm. A very high dose (> 200 mg) or a dose above 80 mg in combination with certain prescribed meds such as clonidine or seroquel can be deadly. That is why methadone clinic patients are monitored so closely. For medical safety. Methadone is dispensed by nurses only (not counselors) and you are assessed before you take that daily dose, for medical safety. Methadone has a very long half life....it lasts for days in your body until it is totally out of your system. When you take it at a methadone clinic daily, as you should, it builds up in your body to a therapeutic level and then it is maintained at that level. A therapeutic level is when you have no physical withdrawal symptoms at all AND no cravings. You almost forget that you take it because you feel "normal". Not high. Not sick. No cravings. Just live and enjoy life. When I say methadone clinic, I mean methadone for addiction NOT pain. Methadone for pain is a totally different program, different approach and different rules. 

Talk LOUD; Don't Die

                                      Takoda the Rescue Dog Says:  Talk LOUD; Don't Die

Let's talk about
Opiate
Use and
Drug abuse

Takoda the Rescue Dog got a second chance at LIFE......YOU Might NOT......Your KIDS MIGHT NOT.......talk LOUD !!!
     with your kids, your parents and your friends!

Kids and Overdose. Alert to Parents and Kids!

Tragically, in the news, you may hear about a child getting hold of an opioid and overdosing (stopped breathing). If the child was very young, then the drug was probably was hanging around, and like kids do, they put it in their mouth or mimic what they see the adults do. If was a preteen or teenager, then most likely they overdosed because they chose to use an opioid of some kind. Once you reach a certain age, it's all about choices. Why would a preteen or teenager decide to use an opiate? The first thing that comes to mind is Peer Pressure. Their friends are doing it and they want to be part of the gang and fit in. OK for maybe one time, but there are root causes for continued opioid use. The one that comes to mind is physical pain: a football injury, cheerleader injury or a sports injury of some kind. Or it could be pain from an accident such as a car accident. So what is the other reason? Emotional pain. Any type of chronic emotional pain such as teasing at school for any reason, poor relationship with parents/siblings, childhood trauma of any kind, ....anything that a kid would consider hurtful that continues on. The kid wouldn't know what to do about it and that could lead to hopelessness. To stop the emotional pain, a kid might drink alcohol or use drugs to temporarily feel better. Dangerous, yes, but kids don't think that far into the future, especially if they are hurting in some way. Now we all have had some childhood issues at one time, but I am talking about months to maybe even years of emotional pain. To a kid that is forever. Parents, what can you do to help prevent your child from falling into this death trap? I call it LOUD. Tell your kids you want to talk LOUD. It stands for:

Let's talk about
Opiate
Use and
Drug abuse

You see, kids like to think they are fooling their parents when taking certain risks. Let your kids and teenagers know that you are AWARE and KNOWLEDGEABLE. It opens the door to drug talk. It is at that time that a kid might say how they are feeling hurt over something in their life or even alert you to the behavior of another kid or teenager. There is a 2017 phrase, "Take 5 to save lives". It is about kids supporting each other to prevent suicide. Well, the same can be done for drug abuse to help prevent overdoses! Parents, tell your kids you want to talk LOUD! Kids, band together and help each other prevent drug use and overdoses. Stay alive, Don't Die! Talk LOUD to your parents! Talk LOUD to your friends! 

My Friends Keep Calling and Stopping By Even Though They Know I Started Recovery!

You will hear about how "friends don't tempt friends when they start a recovery program". Just think about it.....those friends are addicts too! Don't get angry. Addiction likes company. No matter how much a friend wishes you the best in recovery, the addict in them can't leave you alone. If you truly believe that your addiction is a disease then you must believe the friends knocking at your door have a disease also. But, the fact is, you must do what is best for YOURSELF, or recovery will not work for you. You can offer support while they seek treatment but don't put yourself in the position where they are using in your presence. Even if you don't participate in the drug use, the temptation will seep into your brain. You might start dreaming of using or have severe cravings when you are really stressed about something in your life. It will spiral down from there. So don't go there. If a friend is not ready to seek treatment then just let them know that you will be there when they decide to take that first step. Tell your friend that until that happens, they must stay away from you, out of respect of the friendship. No phone calls, no visits. This is the best approach with friends. Anyone else who is not a friend you can just say no and go away! If a person continues to bother you despite your request, say what you must to discourage them. This is your life and you want to live!

Can I die from withdrawal symptoms if they are bad enough? What can I do for withdrawals?

You will not die from the symptoms of opioid withdrawal, no matter how bad they are. You will feel like you are dying and others looking at you might agree. You will not die, but there is no doubt you are suffering :(     What can happen medically is severe dehydration from the sweating, vomiting and diarrhea. Being badly dehydrated is a feeling of extreme weakness, pale skin, sunken eyes, cracked dry lips, possibly even dizziness. If the person cannot drink a large amount of water and Gatorade or Powerade, then go to an Urgent Care for IV fluids to rehydrate. In a dehydrated state you are at risk for injury from a fall due to weakness. How many of us had a real bad flu and nearly fell in the bathroom from feeling weak and dizzy? Be safe.....getting hydrated is necessary whether it is from drinking lots of fluids or getting IV fluids. Always have some Gatorade or Powerade in addition to water and IV fluids to replenish your electrolytes. It will help bring back your strength. Over the counter products can help with other withdrawal symptoms such as Immodium for diarrhea, I would avoid Kaopectate and Pepto Bismol since it contains a substance similar to aspirin and anyone ages 12-18 should not take aspirin since there is a chance it can cause a disease called Reyes Syndrome (serious/ fatal disease) if conditions are right. Imodium takes a little time to work so take it at the first signs of diarrhea. If you are pregnant, go to the Emergency Room since you don't want to risk taking any medication, and dehydration when pregnant is much more serious! For muscle cramps take ibuprofen or naproxen but don't exceed the max dose recommended or you can damage your kidneys. I would avoid acetaminophen unless you are absolutely sure you do not have Hepatitis C Antibody; it might overload your liver. Over the counter magnesium supplements also may help muscle cramping if taken according to directions and you do not exceed the recommended dose. Need some sleep? Only at night, use generic benadryl (diphenhydramine) 2 caps and try some melantonin: anywhere from 3mg - 5 mg any brand, or a 10 mg time release tab by Natrol. Melantonin is a hormone your own body makes which regulates the wake-sleep cycle. Taking a supplement helps some people with sleep disturbances get a decent night's sleep. If you end up going to Urgent Care it is best to have someone with you who knows about why you are in this condition. If ER staff suspect you are in withdrawals then whoever is with you might find out. If the Emergency Room takes blood...if they draw any blood they might do some drug testing......if they get a urine sample they might do some drug testing.....that is all I will say on that. If you are drug tested in any way and you are on probation then your probation officer might find out and have concrete evidence against you. Be wise. Go for IV fluids and don't ask for any narcotics or benzodiazepines (like xanax or ativan) and you should be treated well, be rehydrated, & released. Simple as that.