My Friends Keep Calling and Stopping By Even Though They Know I Started Recovery!

You will hear about how "friends don't tempt friends when they start a recovery program". Just think about it.....those friends are addicts too! Don't get angry. Addiction likes company. No matter how much a friend wishes you the best in recovery, the addict in them can't leave you alone. If you truly believe that your addiction is a disease then you must believe the friends knocking at your door have a disease also. But, the fact is, you must do what is best for YOURSELF, or recovery will not work for you. You can offer support while they seek treatment but don't put yourself in the position where they are using in your presence. Even if you don't participate in the drug use, the temptation will seep into your brain. You might start dreaming of using or have severe cravings when you are really stressed about something in your life. It will spiral down from there. So don't go there. If a friend is not ready to seek treatment then just let them know that you will be there when they decide to take that first step. Tell your friend that until that happens, they must stay away from you, out of respect of the friendship. No phone calls, no visits. This is the best approach with friends. Anyone else who is not a friend you can just say no and go away! If a person continues to bother you despite your request, say what you must to discourage them. This is your life and you want to live!